How To Win Him Over
First dates can be either be blissfully magical or go horribly awry depending on the guy you’re with, the places you go, and the conversation. What really matters to a guy? Find out below.
1. He likes appreciation from his efforts. Guys planned the date. He is the one who does the homework in finding the things you like and find some cool new places. So let him know that you appreciate his work on your behalf and the fact the he’s taking you out.
2. Embrace the awkwardness. Even the most successful dates have at least a few awkward moments but the good news is, feeling tongue-tied is normal and usually shows that you care about making a good impression. You don’t have to lay everything out on a table, but revealing your feelings once in a while can break the ice and calm you down. If your date is nervous, draw him out on topics he clearly cares about. By helping them find his comfort zone, you’ll help him feel great about the date.
3. No cell phone. Taking calls in front of your date sends serious signals that he’s not worth your undivided attention. Same goes for text messaging or vibrating BlackBerrys. But if it’s from work, give your guy a clue in ahead of time so he is prepare for an interruption and apologize when it does buzz.
4. Don’t ask too many personal questions. It’s okay to exchange basic information on a first date but a couple of innocent questions have a way of snowballing into an all-out-fact-finding mission which can get in the way of forming a solid connection. Try to tone down the “What do you do?” dialogue or try to get your date to ponder fun, feel-good thoughts.
5. Provide the positive reinforcement. People like people who like them back. If you are having a good time with your date, don’t be afraid to let him know how much you’re digging him.
